Everybody knows that having a baby is a life-changing event, but what many mothers aren’t prepared for is how much having your baby can make you lose yourself. From sleep deprivation to having a whole human relying on you, it can be hard to find time to be yourself. If you’re struggling to find yourself again, try some of these tips, so you can enjoy motherhood and still feel like you.
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Let Go Of Guilt
Guilt is a nasty trap that a lot of new mums fall into you, which can leave you feeling paralysed. We can all feel the guilt of not being present enough, of not spending enough time with our children, or about forgetting or missing a milestone. When you let go of guilt, tell yourself you’re good enough, and realize that you don’t have to be perfect all the time, you can release yourself from a state of mind that can really hurt you.
Take Time For Yourself
Now that you have no guilt about your parenting skills, you can take some much needed time for yourself so you can get back in touch with yourself. Taking care of a baby all day can be a black hole for the person you were before you become a mother. If you don’t take some time for yourself in order to reconnect with yourself every day, you can soon feel like you’re drowning. Even a few minutes to have a shower or a cup of coffee can make a difference.
Taking care of your body can boost your health, your self-esteem, and your attitude. After having a baby, the last thing you want is to squeeze into your workout gear and hit a workout class. Look for classes designed for new mums, or try workouts online that you can do in the privacy of your own home. If you really want to get your old body back immediately, you could also consider a Mummy Makeover.
Meditation isn’t just sitting on the floor cross-legged for an hour, doing nothing. Meditation is about being aware of yourself and can be done in lots of different ways. It will ease your stress and anxiety, boost your self-esteem, and bring control to your life. In just three minutes a day, you can change the way you feel.
Spend Time With Your Spouse
Remember what it was like before you had kids? When it was just you and your spouse? Relationships change after having kids and it can be hard to remember what was important about them before the baby. Even when you’re tired, try to make time for your spouse or partner. Do whatever works for you and your schedule. You might have to get up a little earlier to have a cup of coffee together before the baby wakes up, or you could meet up for lunch. Reconnecting with your spouse will help you find yourself again and remind you of your quality time before you had kids.